A Letter to All You Liars: Embracing an Honest Life

First, let’s address the elephant in the room. Why are you like this? Really, think about it. Why do you keep pretending to be someone you’re not? Maybe it’s the fear of not measuring up, low self-esteem, or the desire to blend in. Or maybe it’s a thrill you get from keeping up a facade. Whatever it is, if you’re willing to look closely, you’ll probably find that your first lie wasn’t to someone else. It was to yourself.

Now, I know the thought of giving up the comforting illusions you’ve built around you feels terrifying. It’s like giving up armor that’s kept you safe for years. But ask yourself—are you really “safe”? Or are you just trapped? Living behind the walls of who you pretend to be is no real way to live. And deep down, you know it.

Why Living Honestly Is Worth the Fight

This journey won’t be easy. Living honestly means stripping away the excuses, the personas, and the masks you’ve built to protect yourself. You’ll lose things. Friends who only know the version of you that you’ve carefully constructed. Opportunities that appeal to your old self but don’t align with who you truly are. Even pieces of your personality that you thought defined you but were really just crutches. It’s not painless. It’s not smooth. But it’s worth it.

Because here’s the truth: all of those things are holding you back. They keep you small, safe, and, let’s be honest—stuck. When you strip them away, you make space for the things that will actually fill you up. You’ll be left with real friends, meaningful work, and a peace that only comes from living in alignment with who you really are.

Time to Stop Making Excuses

Stop telling yourself that you can’t change, that it’s too hard, or that it’s too late. Stop giving power to your limitations and start putting in the effort to unlock your potential. All those excuses? They’re lies. Lies you’ve told yourself for so long that you’ve begun to believe them. But you don’t have to keep buying into them. Start small. Start by listening to that quiet voice inside you that’s begging to be heard—the one that tells you who you really are and what you truly want.

Apologize to Yourself and Begin Again

The first step toward authenticity is forgiving yourself. Yes, you owe yourself an apology. Apologize for all the times you dismissed your own dreams, silenced your own desires, and betrayed your own heart. Make amends by doing the work to discover who you are and by honoring that person every single day.

No one else can walk this path for you. It’s on you to uncover the truth of who you are. This is about more than just “being yourself.” It’s about living a life that’s aligned with your truest, highest calling—a life that brings you joy, peace, and the deep satisfaction of knowing you’re showing up as your real self. It’s about finding your unique path and walking it with purpose and pride.

The Courage to Live Authentically

Living honestly is going to challenge you. It’s going to ask you to let go of things, people, and versions of yourself that don’t serve you. But what you’ll gain will be so much greater: the joy and peace that only comes from living authentically. No matter how we came into the world, every last one of us was created with love and with a purpose. And know this—there are people around you waiting to be inspired by your courage. They’re waiting to see you shine as the real you. 

So, will you do the work? Will you start today to find out who you really are and to live that truth boldly? This is your invitation to step into the life you deserve. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth every step.

But don’t just take my word for it.

Ephesians 2:10 - For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.

2 Corinthians 5:17 - Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

Galatians 2:20 - I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.